Stuff Husbands Say To Unmarried Guys

When a married man says to unmarried men that "sex isn't that important", or "sex doesn't matter so much in marriage" here are the likely possibilities about what is going on, in no particular order:

1) He's deeply hurt by his wife's rejections, so he's trying to soothe himself.

2) He's bored from being limited to sex with the same aging woman for years with no change in sight, especially if she isn't enthusiastic anymore.

3) He has a low libido.

4) There's sexual dysfunction, whether ED or premature ejaculation, or something else on his part or her part.

I've always understood that actual, physical, marital lovemaking is only going to take up a small percentage of the time you spend with your spouse. However, it is something that is going to be thought about a lot, something that is anticipated. There's the flirting, the hugging and kissing, the touches and pats... at least, there should be. It's important.


I used to wonder what the appeal was to sit and watching regular-season sporting events not involving your local team, or going golfing, fishing, hunting, or the local bar so often. Then I got married. So now I understand better the appeal of those things. But I refuse to try to convince myself that sex isn't important. The blunt truth of the matter is that if you would have told me, back when I was deciding whether or not to get married, that things would be the way they are when it comes to our sex life, I wouldn't have married. That's one reasons I write these entries. I'm not going to try to convince unmarried guys to get married, especially by saying something as depressing as "sex isn't that important".

Read what I wrote about translating happy hubby talk.

Dr. Laura Schlessinger Show Bingo

[Update: Recently (June 2016) someone sent Dr. Laura Bingo into the show and she republished it. I think mine is better.]

Only a true fan could come up with this.

Please see explanatory notes below.

1) Shares Her Personal Life (sailing, dogs, exercises)	2) Pressures Caller, Perhaps to Fabrication	3) Just Accept It Because You Have No Power	4) 2nd Marriages Are Less Important	5) Caller Really Needs a Doctor, Lawyer, or Accountant
6) Tells Caller in a Partnership to Take Unilateral Action	7) Caller Falsely Claims Not to Know	8) Caller Gets MA'AMED or SIRRED or Whistled	9) It’s Not Really Marriage w/o Shared Accounts	10) There’s No Commitment w/o Marriage
11) Hoping/ Wishing/ Feeling Doesn’t Cut It	12) Hangs Up on Caller	13) Clueless Caller Type #1 (has radio turned up, etc.)	14) Dating is Only For Marriage	15) Marriage Isn't Really a Commitment w/o Children
16) Gets Annoyed at a Caller’s Theism	17) Tells a Man "What a Man Does".	18) Clueless Caller Type #2 (not a listener)	19) Sounds Like She Treats Dating/Marriage as Prostitution	20) Minors and Technology
21) Tells Caller to Be More Like a Wild Animal	22) Tells Caller to Be Less Like a Wild Animal	23) Think of Your Husband or Kid As a Dog	24) Caller Lacked Psychic Sexual Knowledge	25) Appeals to Her Childhood