Reasons For Men to Stay Unmarried

You were not born with a wife. You don't naturally acquire a wife by growing up, going through puberty, and living out your life. You have DO a series of things to get married.

Being a Free Man is the default. Do not buy into the marketing that implies EVERYONE gets married. Marriage sellers don't want you stop and question, "Is this a good idea? How will this benefit me? How will this enable me to accomplish my goals? Is this what I really want?"

Watch out when someone says "You're being selfish! It isn't all about you! Stop with the 'I' and the 'me' stuff." Marriage involves a contract. Would you sign a rental or lease agreement, a mortgage or other loan, or an employment contract without being aware of what the contract does and if that contract had little or no benefit to you, while placing significant obligations on you?

Imagine someone from the government hands you a stack of papers and says, "Sign this."

And you say, "Hold on! How will signing this benefit me?"

And they say, "Don't be selfish! Sign it!"

Would you sign that???

No? Well, most men sign the state marriage contract anyway, although more and more men are refusing to do so. That's right. FEWER PEOPLE ARE MARRYING. You will be part of a growing trend if you stay the course as a Free Man.

See here for what the state marriage contract does.

So, it's a bad contract, and that's reason enough to refuse to sign it. "But what what about 1) marrying without the state contract, and 2) the benefits of marriage?" In many places (check with a local family law attorney!), the state contract can be applied even if you never signed one, depending on your actions. Also, prenuptial agreements and cohabitation agreements can be thrown out by judges. There's no benefit to marrying that a man can't get otherwise at less risk or cost.

In no particular order, and perhaps to be updated and expanded, here are the reasons for men to stay unmarried:

It's the default.

There's no good reason to marry.

Marrying shifts your power to the woman.

Staying a Free Man allows you to do what you want, when you want, how you want, with whom want.

You want to be free to make decisions without having to defer to someone else.

You don't want someone else's interference in your professional and personal (family, friends) life.

You want control over your own earnings and your own spending decisions.

You have fewer and lower bills.

You want control over your own time.

You want control over your own residence.

You prefer peace and quiet.

You enjoy your privacy.

You enjoy time for yourself.

You'd rather spend your time on family and friends.

You'd rather not bother looking for a wife, nor do you want someone else picking one out for you.

You want control over your media choices.

You can get all the sex you want without marrying or you're not interested in sex.

You can get everything else you want out of life without marrying.

You're not interested in a "honey do" list.

You don't want to take on someone else's debts and bills.

You don't want to deal with in-laws or a woman's friends.

You don't want to take on someone else's baggage or problems.

You don't want to endure someone else's bad moods, hormone problems, or mental illness problems.

You don't want the limitations, restrictions, responsibilities, obligations, risks, aggravations, annoyances, irritations, nagging, whining, fault-finding, arguments, compromises, and sacrifices that marriage brings men.

You don't want to have the stress and expense of buying a woman expensive or difficult to find gifts four or more times per year.

Better men than you have failed at marriage.

Most marriages fail.

You want to be able to move on if a relationship goes bad without getting the state or attorneys involved.

You don't want to invite the state further into your life.

You want a zero percent chance of domestic violence or false accusations thereof.

You don't want default paternity over a woman's children, especially since you can't ensure she won't cuckold you.

You prefer the chase and/or how relationships are when they're new.

You like variety in women.

Wives should be desired, and you have no desire for a wife.

Married women have a tendency to let themselves go and stop trying to please the man they're with.

A man's social value increases with age (as he acquires wealth, power, fame, experience, confidence) and a woman's social value decreases with age (as she loses her youth, looks, fertility, enthusiasm), so being in a "permanent" relationship is not sensible for a man; as the months pass he can get increasingly hot women.

You haven't found the right woman to be your wife. (There likely is no such woman.)

You have plans, and you don't need the unknowns brought by a wife to interfere with those plans.

You don't want to inflict yourself on a woman.

People change, and you don't want to hinder a woman in her plans or her growth, or trap her into things as they are now.

There is someone else or multiple people you'd rather receive your estate when you die.

There is someone else you want making (medical) decisions for you, should you become unable to do that yourself.

You're happy with your life the way it is.

You're on your way to having your life the way you want it, and a wife will be far more likely to hinder that than help it.

You don't want to!

You don't sign terrible state contracts.

You can't be sure a bride isn't being trafficked.

Not all of these are going to apply to you. Feel free to remind yourself of the reasons that do apply to you and to use them when someone asks why you're not married.

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