After many months of dating a wonderful woman, "Amy," we have set a date for our wedding.How many months exactly?
However, there's a problem. As the date draws closer, Amy is concerned about my lack of physical intimacy with her.Why is there a lack of "intimacy"? Do you have more moral limitations on sex outside of marriage than she does? That can be a serious issue.
While I am very attracted to her, I am having some doubts. I recently noticed a young man at my health club and experienced some unfamiliar feelings. I don't think I am gay, but I am no longer sure that Amy is what I have been looking for.If you're not reasonably sure, you shouldn't get married.
How old are you? The answer may determine if you're homosexual or bisexual. If you're younger, maybe you're not fully aware of your sexuality?
Should I push these feelings aside and continue our plans for the wedding?You can push the feelings aside and still call off the wedding.
Or should I tell Amy the truth about these feelings?You should tell her you shouldn't get married, which is the truth, regardless of whether these feelings are a fluke or something you've simply ignored until now.
I personally know people who had parents who left the marriage and family to take up with someone the same sex. This is seen by our culture as more acceptable that leaving for someone of the opposite sex, but to the kids and spouse it is all unacceptable. One should not make a vow or a commitment with their fingers crossed behind their back. Do not get married and make babies unless you have certainty. And if you did make those vows and made babies and later realized it was a mistake because you are more attracted to the same-sex, and you did stick it out until your children were grown, then you are a honorable person who deserves major kudos for putting your commitments ahead of your desires.
Ladies, if you were his intended, what would you prefer he say and do?