I wrote an article last week about a husband’s great need, and right, to be respected by his wife.Yeah, good luck with that. Our culture and our laws make that nearly impossible.
But one theme seemed to emerge from many of the messages I received: a lot women have trouble respecting their husbands because their husbands spend so much time watching porn.Those were probably women who spend all day feeding confirmation bias about how terrible their husbands are.
I maintain, porn or no porn, that husbands should still be treated with respect in their homes.Uh oh!
But that does not justify porn, nor does it mitigate the impact it has on a marriage. A man who laughs at the very idea that he may be hurting his wife by watching porn only proves the point. He has become so intensely self-involved that his wife's needs are a joke to him. Even when she tells him that she is hurt by it, still, he blows her off and returns to the naked people on the screen.Why does it hurt her? Usually, it is because she's been TOLD it is hurting her. If she was instead told that she shouldn't be jealous of pixels, she's probably, in most cases, be just fine.