Donations Are Good When Cash, Clothes, or Food

I have said it before and I will say it again. Men should never donate sperm. Never, never, never.

Nobody you know needs your sperm. You shouldn't underestimate how you're going to feel when you see "your" child being treated a way you don't like.

Nobody you don't know needs your sperm. It really isn't a good idea to have children that are genetically yours running around out there without you being able to keep tabs on them. Want to know what can happen? Check out this site. (One of my wife's sister's has donated eggs multiple times in recent years, unfortunately.) Plus, I think you are somewhat responsible if someone uses your sperm to intentionally set up a situation where a child will be raised without a mother or without a father.

Let people adopt, or let someone else be the idiot donor.

Yeah, you think it is an ego boost to "spread your seed" or you like the idea of getting paid to masturbate, but you don't need the complication of children you didn't raise coming into and disrupting your life later, or being tagged for child support. Oh yes, that can happen. The state doesn't want to be on the hook when the custodial parent needs aid, so you might end up paying.

Banking your own sperm for your own use may be a good idea in some cases (like illness), as long as you can be sure that it wouldn't be switched, or used by your wife or anyone else against your wishes.

Here's another example of why I have this rule. David Crary of the Associated Press reports about people like Katrina Clark and Lindsay Greenawalt, who were conceived by sperm donors, and now want more info.

Greenawalt, who lives near Cleveland, and Clark, a college student in Washington, D.C., are part of an increasingly outspoken generation of donor offspring. They want to transform the dynamics of sperm donation so the children's interests are given more weight and it becomes easier to learn about their biological fathers.

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A new film, "The Kids Are All Right," depicts two teenage siblings who track down their sperm-donor father and introduce him to their lesbian moms. Complications ensue, but the teens' yearning to meet their dad is portrayed empathetically.

The film opened just weeks after the release of a provocative study by the Commission on Parenthood's Future, titled "My Daddy's Name is Donor." It surveyed 485 donor offspring, concluded they were more troubled and depression-prone than other young adults in comparison groups, and recommended an end to anonymous sperm donation.

I like the idea that I was conceived in an act of mutual, passionate, marital lovemaking - fresh, never frozen.