My wife and I have been basically celibate for about 19 years now. That number coincides with the birth of my son. Basically since that time we have had sexual intercourse an average of 2 times per year and in the latest years, once.Unacceptable.
I love her and am attracted to her but am divorcing her after realizing that 10 years from now I will most likely resent her and wish I'd done something to "start over" now.I hope you are prepared to pay lots of alimony for the rest of your life. Unless you live in a rare jurisdiction that isn't so ridiculous.
The straw that broke the camel's back happened a few months ago when I took her to lunch and explained to her that I was "needy" and wanted to be good, but needed some relief from her.Ah, the hand of mercy.
That night she let me know in no uncertain terms it was a job she was doing and she didn't want to do it but felt compelled. Let's just say it was not even intercourse or what even Bill Clinton would describe as "not sexual relations".
After that, I knew the marriage was over. I could never ask her to do that again. It was as if she thought "sex' with me is the worst chore in the household.Does she play tennis and golf? Does she go to WNBA games?
My wife would rather divorce than try to work out our sexual issues and she's told me that in no uncertain terms.Well, sure. She'll get nice parting gifts. He obviously waited for his son to grow up, which is commendable.
He's found a new woman. What do you want to bet most, if not all, of the people around them think he's scum for leaving his wife for another woman, when in reality his wife checked out twenty years ago? I'm not a bettin' man, but you get the idea. Sure enough...
The worst thing about this breakup is I don't feel like I can tell anyone the real reason for it. So I will bear the burden of the divorce and the brunt of family and friend's lectures and derision. It has already started with emails calling me un-Christian and even lecturing me about using the term "God Bless" at the end of my messages.Something to keep in mind. We don’t know everything about the marriages of other people. And a lot of what we have seen or heard, we probably shouldn't have.