How often do we hear that crap?
Age and life experience mature men. Of course you're more mature now than when you got married. You're older!
Think about people who say that marriage matures men and that's one reason they want men to get married. They want women to marry immature men. Go ahead, ladies! Pair up with an immature man.
Men can be unmarried and mature. How about we focus on how to make that happen, if it really is so important that more men get more mature? Just like I tell men to go to their doctor, why not cut out the "middle man" (the terrible thing that what we now call marriage usually is) and go for the ultimate goal, if that's really what you're concerned with?
Marriage can actually keep men immature. They never figure out how to be independent and make decisions. They marry because someone else will tell them what to do and they think she will pick up after them.
When someone says "marriage matures men," it is fair to ask them what they mean by "mature." It might mean "does what I want them to do."
Depending on how they define it, other things that mature men include:
- Being tortured in an internment camp
- Natural disasters
- Poverty
- Battling cancer
- Combat
Marriage kills the dreams of men and turns them into beaten dogs. It sucks the fun out of their life. People mistake that, or the natural effects of aging or life experience, for marriage maturing a man.
"Marriage matures men" is one of those things said to try to shame, trick, or pressure men into marriage. Don't fall for it. You can be a great, productive, happy person without ever marrying.
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