Running Game - Get Them Competing

Most women want men other women want.

Any man who pays attention has noticed how more women will flirt with him if they see him with a woman, or know that he has a girlfriend, or see him wearing a wedding ring.

Most women ultimately want the same ten percent of men, but most have to "settle." You want her to think either you're in or heading to that top ten percent, or that you're her stepping stone to reach those men, or a good consolation prize. You do that by letting her know she has competition, even if she doesn't yet.

You don't have to say "I'm seeing other women." But what you do say and what you do, and what you don't say and don't do, will stir her competitive instincts.

The women you are looking to date when you're running game want to "win" your attention. Part of keeping what you say to her limited ties right into that.

Nobody wants to eat in an empty restaurant. You might have the mistaken notion that you have to pledge and demonstrate chastity and then monogamy. Wrong! For the women with whom that would work, the affection won’t be worth the effort. She’s trying to lock you down. Avoid those women. You want women whose reaction to the idea that you’re having sex with other women is “I’ll show him I’m the best.”

Maybe it’s not a thing anymore, but before smart phones and ubiquitous free porn, there were wet t-shirt “contests”. White t-shirts, spring break, on the beach. A thin, white, wet t-shirt essentially leaves a woman topless in her appearance. Savvy organizers of these events would hire “plants.” These were hot women who pretended to be there under the same auspices as the rest of the women, and on stage or in the crowd, wouldn’t hesitate to get doused, jiggle, dance, maybe even flash the crowd, or rub or kiss each other. They’d get wild. This would stir the competitive feelings in the actual spring break women who were in the crowd, or at least give them “permission” to do likewise. These "girls next door" want to cut loose, and want your attention. The point is, as long as she perceives there is competition for you, she’s going to audition for the part of being "your woman."

There are many ways you'll be reinforcing the idea that she's auditioning and has competition.

You're only going to see her once a week or even less often, and not around certain holidays, anniversaries, or her birthday.

You're not going to be answering her calls, texts, or other messages at certain times or right away, nor will you be initiating calls, texts, or messages to her except when you want to set up your next visit, which, ideally, will be in a few hours. The best is if you don't even have to initiate and she texts you with "come on over." If you get there and she wants to do something other than what you want, you need to leave. You can text the next woman on your list.

She's not going to see your place. She won't be meeting your friends, family, co-workers, etc.

If a woman asks what you're doing this weekend, you only need two words to reply: “Having sex.” She can either choose for it to be with her, or the notion she has competition will be reinforced.

All  these things will give her the impression you're in demand.

If she asks why you weren't immediately available or responsive, say "I was busy." Busy with what? Work? Sex? You don't have to answer if she asks.

If she asks, "Are you seeing other women?" You can reply with, "I'm doing the same thing you're doing. I'm having a good time, I'm seeing what's what." If she isn't seeing other men, she will be hesitant to tell you that. But she most likely IS seeing other men, even if she says otherwise. 

If she tells you she wants you to stop seeing other women, even if she claims she has stopped seeing other men or will stop seeing other men, you should decline. If she won't see you again, that's OK, but odds are, she will.

If she asks you if you're looking for a wife, if you're looking for marriage, say something like "I can see myself getting married, in the right situation." This will encourage her to do what she can to be a great date.

Remember, you have more important things to do, Do NOT approach her initially in a bar where YOU will be competing with other men. Let her come to you.

It's amazing how much less likely a woman is to be "too tired" or "not feeling well" or "not in the mood" or "not into that" if she thinks you'll go see another woman. It's remarkable how much more pleasant, warm, and easy to deal with instead of bitchy, cold, and difficult a woman is when she thinks she has competition and you're rich, powerful, or about to be. On her period? It's amazing how creative women who are auditioning can get, and how moody they aren't.

Never actually agree to exclusivity. If she stops seeing you, that's OK. Don't give in to ultimatums. There are other women, and always more being made. Once you agree to exclusivity, she starts pulling back. It gets worse if you shack up or get engaged, and especially if you marry or have a child, because then she figures she has you.

You want her auditioning, and you want her auditioning knowing she is competing with other women. That's how you're going to have the best time with as little hassle, money, and time as possible.