Easier Release

My blogroll has a couple of blogs from the folks behind The Marriage Bed - The Generous Husband and The Generous Wife. Their website and their blogs are chock full of helpful information and discussions about sexual matters. They are Christians and their material reflects that, but one need not be a Christian to benefit from their content.

Yes, this is another entry about lovemaking techniques.

I wanted to call attention to a recent entry on The Generous Husband about manual sex (wife pleasuring husband), called Let Her Handle It.

For most women, manual sex on hubby is the easiest possibility. Many who resist are just unsure of how to do it, and that is easily fixed with some instruction or a demonstration.

Do you find that to be true, ladies?

He goes on to write some Q&A...

Q. When should her doing some hand jobs be an option?
A. I’d say it’s a good choice any time she is unable or unwilling to have intercourse as regularly as you would like.

Sounds good.

Q. How do you suggest [requesting this]?
A. This will vary from couple to couple. If she’s done it in the past, you might suggest it when she had declined to have intercourse. If this would be something new, suggest it at a non-sexual time, or bring it up after sex. Whenever you bring it up, I would suggest you show it as a win/win – less cost to her, some help to you. Letting her know you realise sex is sometimes difficult for her is a good thing, and it should make her more understanding of your needs.

I've quite enjoyed manual sex when intercourse and oral sex were not options. I read somewhere that blindfolded, men enjoy it more than oral sex (which indicates that part of what makes oral sex enjoyable to men is the visual aspect and also the psychological aspect). It makes sense, given how much we use our hands, that we have two hands, and the ability to vary the pressure we apply and how we apply it. Women have one tongue, but ten fingers.

As the GH points out, it manual sex doesn't have to be boring. If possible, use a lubricant and both hands – there are two-handed techniques such as alternating so that as one hand moves up off the head, the other hand is starting back at or near the scrotum, then quickly moving up towards the head. Continuing the stroking through the climax may be especially appreciated. Kissing your husband (not necessarily on his genitals), talking – you can probably say certain things in a certain way to really drive him wild, and being naked may all be appreciated parts of the experience, along with a bunch of other things I may discuss another time.