Thursday, April 15, 2010

Kyle Nachreiner - What a Lack of Remorse Looks Like

There was a high-profile criminal case in Orange County, California several years back as three young guys who where politically connected were caught on tape sexually assaulting a girl. Now, one of the convicted criminals was foolish enough to be interviewed, photographed, and videotaped for a story in the Orange County Register, so that he could complain that being registered and labeled as “sex offender” is unfair. Break out the air violins for his situation.

"I went from being in the paper for playing varsity baseball as a freshman to being in the paper for a rape case,'' he says.

Yeah, you blew it. You had a really great launching pad to the rest of your life, and you threw it away.

On July 5, 2002, when he was 17, Nachreiner and two other male teenagers, Gregory Haidl and Keith Spann, sexually assaulted a seemingly unconscious teenage girl in the Corona del Mar home of Haidl's father, then-Assistant Sheriff Don Haidl.
I should note that Haidl was pretty much a political appointee by a Sheriff who has been subsequently criminally convicted himself.

The trio videotaped the episode, a 21-minute movie that shows the friends laughing as they shove a pool cue, a lit cigarette, a juice can and Snapple bottle inside the girl as she lay intoxicated on a pool table.

In 2006, they were each sentenced to six years in prison.

All three are adults now and out of prison, having served less time because none of the sex offenses were found to be forcible. Last month, they lost their appeal to the California Fourth District Court of Appeal to overturn their convictions and the requirement that they register as lifelong sex offenders.
So they got out early, but he is still pushing his luck.

Nachreiner, though, may appeal his case to the state Supreme Court. He says it is unfair for him to endure the punishment of being tagged as a sex offender until he dies.

"I served my time. I went to prison. Now, I'm stuck with that label."

Yeah, that's how the sex offender registry works.

"Psychologically, it's devastating. It's the worst form of degradation there is."

What an incredibly stupid and callous thing to say, given what someone else has suffered by his actions.

He says he was very drunk, and that alcohol impaired his judgment.

And did somebody force those drinks down your 17-year-old throat?

"I'm responsible for behaving how I did. For hanging out with people I didn't trust ... For being ignorant. She's responsible for going there, for bragging that she's a porn star."

She's responsible for some bad judgment. That does not mean she deserved to be gang-raped.

"I don't believe for one second she was unconscious,'' he says.
Even if she wasn't, and it is hard to believe she wasn't, given what was being stuck in her, you still did a horrible thing. The defense lawyers attempted to slime the victim, too, and he does too...

When asked if he knew what he was doing at the time was wrong, he pauses before answering.

"Had it been any other girl, maybe."

BZZZZZ. Wrong. It was wrong to do to ANYONE. For example, you can bet that if prison guards did it to HIM after he was convicted, they would be prosecuted themselves, and this guy would be suing the county/state.

The three were tried as adults and were almost victorious at their first trial. That trial ended in a deadlocked jury.

Faced with a mistrial, Orange County prosecutors decided to deal. They offered Nachreiner, Haidl and Spann a plea bargain that would have landed each of them in prison for 18 months. But the defendants refused, rolling their dice and going to trial again.

Bad move.

In March 2005, the second jury convicted the defendants of multiple counts of sexual penetration with a foreign object by intoxication. Nachreiner was acquitted of rape and two counts of sexual penetration by a foreign object.
I'm glad they were convicted.

Nachreiner was the one who inserted the pool cue into a limp Jane Doe, both in her vagina and anus. At other times, Nachreiner is dancing, flashing gang signs and mugging for the camera.

Real quality behavior.

Nachreiner was 23 when he got out of Chuckawalla Prison on June 18, 2008. He moved to Big Bear, and worked as a ski lift attendant.

That November, he was arrested for drunken driving. The DUI charges eventually were dismissed, and he pleaded guilty to reckless driving. But he was sent back to prison for five months because of the parole violation. He got out of Chino Prison in April 2009, and moved in with his aunt.
Keep it going.

As with his other jobs, he hasn't told this employer about his criminal record.

Hmmmm, do you think they'll find out? Is that even legal – for him to withhold that information?

Hundreds of comments have been left after the story on the paper's website, most tearing Nachreiner a new one.

My advice to this guy:

1. Shut up. Stop talking until you fully realize why what you did was wrong.
2. Drop the appeals.
3. Behave yourself. You don't want to get arrested again or go back to jail. You don't want to be on parole or probation.
4. Get on your knees and beg the good Lord for forgiveness. Find a good church.
5. Use legal intermediaries to beg your victim for forgiveness.
6. Explain to the media how you were wrong and tell them how you've changed.
7. Work, pay your taxes, and get involved in some form of charity.

Maybe your life can be redeemed.

[UPDATE November 2017: This post is from April of 2010. Comments on this person continue to trickle in, with people claiming to know him now. I don't think it is fair to post negative comments about how he is now, because he's not in the news anymore. If he gets in trouble with the law again, then of course I'll publish more comments on that. If you want to keep ME updated and share your experiences with ME, you can still write those in the comment window. I'm not not likely to publish them. It is my sincere hope that everyone involved in this matter is, or becomes, a positively contributing member of society.]


  1. Ken, Excellent commentary on this ugly incident. I agree completely with your 7 points at the end. I'm glad you stopped by my blog, I will be reading here!

  2. Hmmmm, do you think they'll find out? Is that even legal – for him to withhold that information?

    Considering that every job application I have ever seen asks you if you have ever been convicted of a felony, not really. It would be grounds for immediate termination if his employer found out after the fact.

    Of course, I'm also surprised that his employer didn't do a criminal background check (again, most job applications I've seen require you to give the employer permission to do exactly that), which would have turned this information up, anyway.

    To your seven points, I would add:

    8. Become an anti-rape advocate, telling other young men that it's wrong and ultimately not worth it.

    By the way, I found your blog through Barbara.

  3. Thanks, Jarred - for reading, writing, and telling me how you found me.

  4. Anonymous11:38 PM

    Yes, his employers know, they get a tax break for hiring convicted felons...go figure.

  5. Anonymous8:22 PM

    His employer does not do background checks, and they know.....It sickens us to work with him.

  6. Anonymous8:20 PM

    I went to elementary school with this guy. When I heard about this incident, I wasn't surprised at all. Since he was little, he's always been an asshole.

  7. Anonymous1:28 PM

    Kyle boy is a Daddy now.

  8. Anon, I hope there are other people in this child's life to steer him/her in the right direction. Obviously his mother has issues to even be involved with K. Poor kid :(

  9. Anonymous1:19 AM

    I knew this guy in high school.the biggest prick you could ever meet.he had a big mouth and always thought he was tough stuff.I hope they stuffed him in prison

  10. Anonymous10:50 AM

    I went to high school with Kyle, sat next to him in Spanish. Always was a douche bag. I remember kids showing the video around at school. They deserved way more than 6 years!

  11. Anonymous9:52 AM

    I knew him in middle school and even back then I knew he had problems. Not a kid you'd want to befriend, just bad intentions and narcissistic. Just like the other anonymous post, he was a little asshole. Crazy how the lord works, it was a blessing that he was videotaped. He would've denied the whole incident and/or blamed the other guys. That's the kind of asshole he was.

  12. Anonymous12:03 AM

    Kyle is a narcissistic little shit. He always was. Mommy always told him he was right no matter what he did. P.S. you little bastard.... you made varsity as a freshman because of Adam, your brother. Not on your own merits....

  13. Anonymous10:17 AM

    Kyle is currently on 3 months of felony house arrest for missing his check in on his birthday for being a sex offender.

  14. Anonymous10:21 AM

    Met Kyle, did some research because he openly talked about his case, went into great detail. Continues to say how he never did it, and how innocent he is. After reading all these comments, it's crazy because he is such a douche bag. Ego through the roof, thinks he's unstoppable. PATHETIC.

  15. Anonymous4:10 PM

    Same here. Met the guy few months ago. Told me his version of the story. He claims to be innocent. He is a predator, narcissistic, criminal. Always after women attention through pity ploys. Be on the lookout.


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