Insight Into the Inner Male

One of the websites I check in on from time to time is The Marriage Bed. It is a Christian website dealing with sexuality. The couple that runs the website blog as "The Generous Husband" and "The Generous Wife", which I have in my blogroll. The forums at the website can be informative. One thread titled "For Wives: How do you view your husband's penis?" got my attention.

"DaWoodkie" had something he wanted wives to know about their husbands. Yes, he's generalizing, and perhaps using hyperbole, but you may still find this useful.

We LOVE our penis. We ADORE our penis. On top of that, our deepest desire is that our wife will share our fascination and love for our penis. We also deeply identify with the idea that our penis IS us. In many (if not most) husband's minds, for you to reject his penis is to reject him. For you to touch it with a "oohh yuck" attitude actually wounds us in very profound ways. So when you are touching your husband, realize that your are touching the most precious thing he possesses. He desperately wants you to adore it in the same way he adores it. When you touch it, he wants to know that you love it. A caress, kiss or lick to his penis is like caressing and kissing his consciousness.

I would encourage wives to think about their husband's penis as a smaller model of him.

Shower it with love and affection and you are showering him with love and affection. Reject it, squirm in disgust or even react with mild distaste towards it and you are sending a message that is loud and clear to him; you think he is disgusting, undesirable and distasteful. Believe me he will get it. If he is like most men he will put up with the attitude because he desperately wants you to touch him (or kiss, etc...) and will settle for what he can get. However, he will come away from the encounter feeling a bit (or a lot) wounded. Learning to love and appreciate your husband's penis is probably one of the best things you could ever do to lift his self-esteem and make him feel desirable.

This brings to mind what I wrote about someone in my past:

Oh, the things she would say. Did she ever know how to lie to a man. Things like:

1. "You're so big."
2. "It is perfect; it's beautiful - I just want to stare at it."

Women may not understand this mentality in men - especially if they don't feel the same way about their own bodies or parts of their bodies. But, of course, men and women are often different.