See the first entry in this series here for a bit of explanation.
Marriage matures people/makes them better/turns them into grownups.
The only evidence provided for this that I've heard is Dennis Prager asking married and divorced people if marrying made them more mature/better people.
That means he's asking people "Did something you chose to do make you a better person?" Do you think there just might be a reason for many people to say yes, even though the answer is no?
People are reluctant to say something that cost them a lot of time, effort, and money that they chose to do didn't improve them.
Dennis doesn't try this approach with college attendance, which he says, in almost all cases, makes people worse. If he were to ask most people who attended college, especially people who finished their degrees, if it made them better people, they'd say yes.
Time, age, and struggle can mature people. If people really want to take on voluntary struggles, they can find ones better to choose than marriage. People can and do mature without marriage. Cut out the middleman/middlewoman and seek maturity through other means. Don't sign a terrible state contract.
If you don't marry, your life will be empty and meaningless.
There is more than one way to answer this.
A) My life as a free man is already full and meaningful, so clearly this isn't true.
B) I'll take that risk.
C) Some married people kill their spouse. How full and meaningful is that?
D) Jesus and the Apostle Paul had full, meaningful lives without being married.
Not marrying is selfish.
There is more than one way to answer this.
A) Earlier you told me that marrying would make me wealthier and otherwise better off. Wouldn't marrying on that basis be selfish?
B) If staying in my default state of being free and not signing a terrible state contract is what you call selfish, so be it. I'd rather be free and have you claim I'm selfish than enter into a terrible state contract and have you applaud me for it.
C) Refusing to sign a terrible state contract is smart. Marrying is usually delusional, ignorant, or masochistic.
D) If I'm a selfish person, I should definitely avoid inflicting myself on someone in a marriage.
E) Explain to me how you marrying was selfless. [Listen closely to what they say.] You could have done that without a terrible state contract.
Remember, men, your default state is being unmarried. The burden is on the marriage seller to explain why you should marry, not on you to explain why you won't sign a terrible state contract.
Read Part 3 here.
The only evidence provided for this that I've heard is Dennis Prager asking married and divorced people if marrying made them more mature/better people.
That means he's asking people "Did something you chose to do make you a better person?" Do you think there just might be a reason for many people to say yes, even though the answer is no?
People are reluctant to say something that cost them a lot of time, effort, and money that they chose to do didn't improve them.
Dennis doesn't try this approach with college attendance, which he says, in almost all cases, makes people worse. If he were to ask most people who attended college, especially people who finished their degrees, if it made them better people, they'd say yes.
Time, age, and struggle can mature people. If people really want to take on voluntary struggles, they can find ones better to choose than marriage. People can and do mature without marriage. Cut out the middleman/middlewoman and seek maturity through other means. Don't sign a terrible state contract.
If you don't marry, your life will be empty and meaningless.
There is more than one way to answer this.
A) My life as a free man is already full and meaningful, so clearly this isn't true.
B) I'll take that risk.
C) Some married people kill their spouse. How full and meaningful is that?
D) Jesus and the Apostle Paul had full, meaningful lives without being married.
Not marrying is selfish.
There is more than one way to answer this.
A) Earlier you told me that marrying would make me wealthier and otherwise better off. Wouldn't marrying on that basis be selfish?
B) If staying in my default state of being free and not signing a terrible state contract is what you call selfish, so be it. I'd rather be free and have you claim I'm selfish than enter into a terrible state contract and have you applaud me for it.
C) Refusing to sign a terrible state contract is smart. Marrying is usually delusional, ignorant, or masochistic.
D) If I'm a selfish person, I should definitely avoid inflicting myself on someone in a marriage.
E) Explain to me how you marrying was selfless. [Listen closely to what they say.] You could have done that without a terrible state contract.
Remember, men, your default state is being unmarried. The burden is on the marriage seller to explain why you should marry, not on you to explain why you won't sign a terrible state contract.
Read Part 3 here.
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