My mother-in-law, "Kay" -- who is in her 50s -- dresses like she's in her teens or 20s.What does that mean, exactly? Well, read on.
Don't get me wrong, she looks great. She exercises several hours a day to keep in shape and follows a strict diet.So... bikinis, short skirts, and spaghetti-straps are okay for teens? But not for a woman in her 50s?
Kay wears spaghetti-strap shirts and short skirts in the summer, and bikinis to sunbathe. I understand that she wants to show off her body, but is there a way to direct her to more age-appropriate clothing?
Dear Abby responded:
You are well-intentioned, but if you are wise, you will refrain from giving your mother-in-law any unasked-for fashion advice.That's for sure. I'm not so sure about the well-intentioned bit, though. She could just be jealous. A lot of women can't stand it when another women draws attention while in their presence.
Anyone think the MIL would take the criticism well, and would change how she dresses as a result?
Any of you know anyone like either of these women... perhaps it is you?
Here's the argument I've heard from some of my fellow religious conservatives (Christian and otherwise). "None of that is appropriate at any age because it causes men to think of women as sex objects or have impure thoughts." I've also heard that some of that is fine for available women, but not for women who are making a commitment. Then there's the reverse - religions in which married women can wear blue jeans, but unmarried women (who are all supposedly virgins... which often means they only have sex with guys outside of the family religion/social circle) can't wear jeans, but instead wear really long skirts. And learn how to walk in short strides.
What say you? Back in my bachelor days I wouild insert some joke here about sending me a picture if you're not sure what is appropriate so that I could tell you one way or the other.