Men and women are different. Even people still in utero can tell there's a difference. Only people who buy into the dung being shoveled by activists, including certain college and workplace programs, will deny this reality.
This blog and other sources have tried to explain to women that men literally think differently than them. We experience things differently from them in that our senses and nervous system and brain literally process things differently. But I've neglected to reinforce to men that, necessarily, the other side of that coin is that women think and feel and experience differently from men. Very few men truly grasp that and what it means.
A simple way of demonstrating this is unsolicited "crotch shots." I won't rehash that now. Click the link to see what I had to say about those.
But it is applicable to so much more of life.
Naive young men think, "I crave sex all of the time. I like everything about a woman's body. I like the look, feel, and taste of a vulva/vagina. I care about giving a woman intense orgasms and making sure she's satisfied. If she lets me know what turns her on and drives her wild, I'll do that.
"I like having her around. I like her approval. I like doing things for her in general. I like looking after her needs. I like solving problems for her and making her life better. Women probably feel the same way about men."
WRONG!!!
Most women don't crave sex anywhere close to as often or intensely as men. This is not to say that women don't get aroused, don't want sex. This doesn't deny that some women are with men who have a lower drive than them. Statements like these are necessarily generalities: Men want it a lot more intensely and a lot more often than women. That's why the overwhelming majority of sex workers all throughout history have been women and male sex workers often cater to gay men. This is why lesbian bed death is a thing for many female couples.
Most women do not have an appreciation for the male body anything like how most men feel about the female body. Do they appreciate seeing/feeling hard abs? Sure. But not nearly on the same level as men, for example, liking female legs. Most women, if given the choice, will marry the flabby guy who earns more than she does instead of the hunk who earns less than she does. Meanwhile, a man (if he has money to attract one) will marry a hot young woman who has no job and no ambition to get one over the flabby woman who earns more than him. She likes feeling his muscles because of what those muscles can do for her. A man likes a woman's curves simply for their own sake.
Women tolerate penises and scrotums. They don't crave them the way men crave vulvas and vaginas. They don't like the sight, feel, or taste of male genitalia. She might like that she was able to turn him on, likely because she knows she can use that for her advantage. Again, there are exceptions, but this is generally true.
Unless she's auditioning to be his girlfriend or wife, women don't care about giving their man more intense orgasms or making sure he's satisfied. They consider that his job. Women even accuse men of only caring about that for women for the sake of his own ego. She doesn't care about what turns him on or drives him wild unless it somehow gives her leverage. If they're married or she otherwise figures she has him locked in, she doesn't care. She doesn't really want to know his fantasies. She might want to hear him mirror hers. Articles like this one, "How To Discuss Your Deepest, Darkest Desires and Kinks With Your Partner," are not for men who can lose their children in a custody dispute or lose over half of their stuff and be forced to pat alimony. The odds she’d do anything less than try to shame you are slim. Almost no woman wants to hear it. Telling her might disgust her and completely turn her off from you, and even send her out the door.
Women don't want men around for any other reason than utility and giving her attention. She doesn't want to do things for him; he's supposed to do things for her. His needs are his problem. She doesn't want to solve his problems or make his life better other than to control his life. Yet again, there are exceptions. There are women, especially wives, who figure it is their duty to do things for him and will do them, but few of them actually want to.
Women despise and resent their husbands. Most women are only really attracted to the top ten percent of men or a smaller percentage. But most women can't get those men to date them, let alone marry them. So if you marry, a woman thinks she settled. She delusionally thinks she could get better. She wants better. But she cashed in her chips and has you. And she resents you for that. Conversely, men are attracted to far more of the spectrum of women, and, at least until a certain age, the man can get hotter and hotter women the older he get gets. If he's married before he's reached his peak wealth, earning level, fame, or power, then it's likely he has settled. But your wife won't think of things that way. She thinks you're lucky to have her.
Guys, you know how, often, you act romantic, or compliment her, or say "I love you" when you really don't mean it, just to keep peace, when you'd rather watch a game and tell her she's letting herself go? Well, she does the equivalent when she compliments you, or she acts like she is eager to please you sexually.
Yes, there is biology at work and most women do have attraction to men, but that attraction doesn't stop all of the other stuff she feels and will be overridden to do things like deny you sex as a punishment.
What Is The Solution?
We used to need to band together for survival. That's no longer the case. Men can survive just fine all of life without a woman. And women can survive all of life without a man. Of course we still need each other for reproduction, if that is truly desired, but reproduction can be done with IVF. If I had to bet money, I'd say that eventually cloning, genetic engineering, and artificial wombs will make it possible for men and women not to interact at all, if that is what someone wants.
For men, the smartest and safest way is probably to go into monk mode. Short of that, it would still be to live alone, get a vasectomy, and run game (stick to going to booty calls and avoid letting them know your real name, real address, direct contact information, and real place of work). Eventually, robotics, virtual reality, augmented reality, and other technologies will allow for highly effective, customized (and variable), and increasingly affordable sexbots/fantasy experiences. This probably won't fully replace a great real lover, but it will be far better than masturbation as it is now, closely approximating all the sensations of sex, without all of the baggage that comes with a real lover. Technologies will also help even more with domestic chores.
Then fewer women will have to deal with bothersome men.
This blog and other sources have tried to explain to women that men literally think differently than them. We experience things differently from them in that our senses and nervous system and brain literally process things differently. But I've neglected to reinforce to men that, necessarily, the other side of that coin is that women think and feel and experience differently from men. Very few men truly grasp that and what it means.
A simple way of demonstrating this is unsolicited "crotch shots." I won't rehash that now. Click the link to see what I had to say about those.
But it is applicable to so much more of life.
Naive young men think, "I crave sex all of the time. I like everything about a woman's body. I like the look, feel, and taste of a vulva/vagina. I care about giving a woman intense orgasms and making sure she's satisfied. If she lets me know what turns her on and drives her wild, I'll do that.
"I like having her around. I like her approval. I like doing things for her in general. I like looking after her needs. I like solving problems for her and making her life better. Women probably feel the same way about men."
WRONG!!!
Most women don't crave sex anywhere close to as often or intensely as men. This is not to say that women don't get aroused, don't want sex. This doesn't deny that some women are with men who have a lower drive than them. Statements like these are necessarily generalities: Men want it a lot more intensely and a lot more often than women. That's why the overwhelming majority of sex workers all throughout history have been women and male sex workers often cater to gay men. This is why lesbian bed death is a thing for many female couples.
Most women do not have an appreciation for the male body anything like how most men feel about the female body. Do they appreciate seeing/feeling hard abs? Sure. But not nearly on the same level as men, for example, liking female legs. Most women, if given the choice, will marry the flabby guy who earns more than she does instead of the hunk who earns less than she does. Meanwhile, a man (if he has money to attract one) will marry a hot young woman who has no job and no ambition to get one over the flabby woman who earns more than him. She likes feeling his muscles because of what those muscles can do for her. A man likes a woman's curves simply for their own sake.
Women tolerate penises and scrotums. They don't crave them the way men crave vulvas and vaginas. They don't like the sight, feel, or taste of male genitalia. She might like that she was able to turn him on, likely because she knows she can use that for her advantage. Again, there are exceptions, but this is generally true.
Unless she's auditioning to be his girlfriend or wife, women don't care about giving their man more intense orgasms or making sure he's satisfied. They consider that his job. Women even accuse men of only caring about that for women for the sake of his own ego. She doesn't care about what turns him on or drives him wild unless it somehow gives her leverage. If they're married or she otherwise figures she has him locked in, she doesn't care. She doesn't really want to know his fantasies. She might want to hear him mirror hers. Articles like this one, "How To Discuss Your Deepest, Darkest Desires and Kinks With Your Partner," are not for men who can lose their children in a custody dispute or lose over half of their stuff and be forced to pat alimony. The odds she’d do anything less than try to shame you are slim. Almost no woman wants to hear it. Telling her might disgust her and completely turn her off from you, and even send her out the door.
Women don't want men around for any other reason than utility and giving her attention. She doesn't want to do things for him; he's supposed to do things for her. His needs are his problem. She doesn't want to solve his problems or make his life better other than to control his life. Yet again, there are exceptions. There are women, especially wives, who figure it is their duty to do things for him and will do them, but few of them actually want to.
Women despise and resent their husbands. Most women are only really attracted to the top ten percent of men or a smaller percentage. But most women can't get those men to date them, let alone marry them. So if you marry, a woman thinks she settled. She delusionally thinks she could get better. She wants better. But she cashed in her chips and has you. And she resents you for that. Conversely, men are attracted to far more of the spectrum of women, and, at least until a certain age, the man can get hotter and hotter women the older he get gets. If he's married before he's reached his peak wealth, earning level, fame, or power, then it's likely he has settled. But your wife won't think of things that way. She thinks you're lucky to have her.
Guys, you know how, often, you act romantic, or compliment her, or say "I love you" when you really don't mean it, just to keep peace, when you'd rather watch a game and tell her she's letting herself go? Well, she does the equivalent when she compliments you, or she acts like she is eager to please you sexually.
Yes, there is biology at work and most women do have attraction to men, but that attraction doesn't stop all of the other stuff she feels and will be overridden to do things like deny you sex as a punishment.
What Is The Solution?
We used to need to band together for survival. That's no longer the case. Men can survive just fine all of life without a woman. And women can survive all of life without a man. Of course we still need each other for reproduction, if that is truly desired, but reproduction can be done with IVF. If I had to bet money, I'd say that eventually cloning, genetic engineering, and artificial wombs will make it possible for men and women not to interact at all, if that is what someone wants.
Then fewer women will have to deal with bothersome men.
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