Tuesday, February 13, 2018

Don't Fall For the Valentine's Day Trap

Men, whether you're in a new relationship or a long-term one, don't fall for the trap of proposing or marrying on Valentine's Day.

If you proposed over the holidays, it was probably a mistake to do so and you should seriously consider backing out.

It's generally a good idea to avoid exclusive relationships to begin with, but if you're in a relationship in any given year, it's a good idea to break up or become very scarce before Thanksgiving and to keep things that way until at least February 15. If her birthday or any of your "anniversaries" with her are just before Thanksgiving or just after Valentine's Day, extend that "off" period to cover that.

But here we are. Valentine's Day is about a month away as I write this, and so if you're in a relationship, then if she's like most women, she's going to expect you to put a lot of time and money into celebrating. You're expected to jump through hoops. Why???

Get out. Hit the eject button. And seriously consider not getting back into the relationship.

[This has been bumped up because you need to see it.]

1 comment:

  1. We tweeted back and forth last night about something and I've been reading your blog. I'm amazed at how much I agree with you despite my personal experiences being so much different. I'm actually a pretty big proponent of marriage in general. I just think couples should learn how to appreciate each other. But I also recognize how unrealistic that is for many, if not most, cases.

    One of my first dates with my wife was Valentines. No real reason. That's just how the time fell. So it really sticks out in my mind. I proposed on New Years Eve five years later but it was more because we were on vacation than because New Years. There was really no debate that we would be getting married and we were already living together. It was just time.

    My wife is the best thing that ever happened to me but that's just because she is who she is. She's an amazingly level-headed person. She's maybe the smartest and most self controlled person I've ever known. My parents were the opposite and each married 5 times. My dad was a really good dad from the time I was 10 to 18. And that kinda saved me. But he and my mom were really bad about jumping into things. Anytime they were single, the next person they met seemed to be marriage material.


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