Let’s Check Up on a Marital Bed Again

It’s been over a year since I posted this.

So, we’ve had another year, another anniversary, our birthdays, Valentine’s Day, Christmas, and so on.

The kids are older and more self-sufficient.

Speaking of anniversaries, I was happy, but didn’t let myself get too happy, that our anniversary prompted my wife to look again for “adult” items, such as toys. I told her it meant a lot to me and I presented excitement and enthusiasm. The business she bought from has a clever marketing/sales strategy, so she bought plenty of items, supposedly at low prices.

The reason I secretly tempered my excitement is that she’s bought toys, games, and other items before. They hardly get used. We have at least one activity book that’s gone unused - ever. She took a look through it and that was it.

But… I wanted to encourage her effort this time, even knowing it wasn’t going to lead to much in the short term and even less in the long term.

Yes, we’ve tried out most of what she bought. Most stuff got tried…once.

When you’re only getting sexual once every few weeks or less, bells and whistles are likely to be neglected.

I mean, what can I expect when we left town (at great expense and hassle) for our anniversary and, per her planning, we brought the kids with us, and they stayed with us in the same room?

Yes, we could send them out of the room, and we did. But… really.

She knows we don’t do it enough. She knows her inhibitions are restrictive. She has said both of those truths. But she’s not doing anything to change it. And there’s nothing I can do change it.

On the plus side, she hasn’t added new restrictions since my previous post. That might be because I learned not to bring the subjects of not getting enough sex/wanting to do certain things; she took those opportunities in the past to say boner-killing stuff and add more restrictions.

So, here we are.

If you’re not married, don’t lock yourself into that terrible state contract, guys. Stay free. If you want female companionship, running game will get you plenty with little cost or trouble. If you absolutely must be what you’ll think is monogamous, you still should avoid that terrible state contract.