Saturday, April 12, 2014

My Current Recommendations to Men

Do not marry.

Do not have children.

...unless you have no purpose in your life and you really need drama, aggravation, your days filled  with doing things for others that will often turn out to be complete wastes or received with not only a lack of gratitude, but complaining... AND you WANT to waste your money.


  1. Amen! Some men seem to get lucky but in my experience marriage is a load of over-rated crap.

  2. Peter, it certainly is an enormous risk with diminishing possible returns. Every benefit a man gets from marriage is via purely voluntary generosity of the woman he marries. On the flip side, if a woman marries for money (even if she calls is "security"), the law can force him to keep up his end of the bargain. Even if a man chooses wisely and well and finds that unusual woman who is a match for him AND will be a generous wife, one accidental bump to the head and it can all turn to a hellish existence, and the law will empower her to make it so.

  3. Anonymous5:38 PM

    Your kids must feel worthless because you hate the idea of family so much.

  4. Anonymous, my kids have no idea I have these thoughts. I adore my kids and spend a lot of time with them. I feel crappy they were screwed over in the parenting department. Well, not as bad as a lot of other kids, but they certainly aren't getting the life I had planned.

    I used to be all gung-ho about marriage and family. This blog details why and how my thoughts have shifted.

    When my son gets old enough, it will be tricky for me to impart realistic information to him without implying that any of my negativity is his fault. The kids did not set up this situation, my wife and I did. It's our fault. But no, I'm not going to tell him the only or even the necessarily "right" thing to do is to get married and raise children. I'm going to be very honest with him about the risks and tradeoffs, unlike so many other people with my overall worldview.


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