December Is Here and That Requires Evasive Maneuvers

Unmarried men (whether you are single, in relationship, or engaged), how is your holiday game plan coming along?

Guys, December is here, and that means holidays, like Christmas, Hanukkah [now past], and the New Year. Those can be threats to free men. (If you're an American who celebrated Thanksgiving in November, you should have already taken steps to ensure your freedom won't be jeopardized, but if you haven't, you really need to act sooner rather than later.)

Now is the time, guys. It is time to become extremely scarce to any woman who considers you her fiancé or expects your relationship to head that way. If you're seeing a woman regularly, it is time to disrupt that. Don't end up spending a lot of money! Don't give her (or her family!) the impression that you're eager to marry. That is what she/they will think if you join her at events with her friends and family. You shouldn't even know any of her friends or family. You should only be seeing her when the Sun isn't visible, preferably at her place.

In taking evasive maneuvers, you're going to avoid seeing her until at least February 15. 

And whatever you do, if you haven't already, DO NOT PROPOSE!!! Don't be hoodwinked by those terrible jewelry ads!!!

There is a GREAT excuse this year to avoid her friends and family, and to keep her away from yours, and to be scarce! You "want to be responsible and need to avoid potentially spreading COVID-19."

In reality, you DO NOT want a woman seeing you as part of her family. You don't want her family members or friends or yours asking "When are you going to get married?" or "When are you going to get engaged?" Going to family gatherings with her is counterproductive since you do not want to get married. (You really, really don't.)

Don't be driving her places. Don't be getting her airline tickets or hotel rooms. I don 't care if you have points. Save those points for you!

If there is a woman who thinks of herself as your fiancée or the girlfriend, you need to become scarce NOW, and not resurface for her until February 15 at the earliest. If she breaks up with you, so be it. You're better off. If she has your ring and you never get it back (even though she's supposed to return it), consider it the price of freedom and learn the lesson that you should never ever buy jewelry for a woman who isn't your family member.

Need companionship from a woman? Now is the time to make new, casual connections. Even better, do the things you need and want to do so that when the pandemic is behind us, you'll be in an even better position.

Don't be the boyfriend or fiancé who is buying her gifts in December, kissing her at midnight at the turn of the year, spending all sorts of money and time on her to plan for February 14. Avoid all of that!!!