Hey you. Yes, you. You might be wondering who I am and why this blog is here.
I'm a married middle-aged father living in the USA. I have steady career work and a four-year college degree. I'm the breadwinner for my family. I'm married to my first (and only) wife and I'm her first husband. Neither of us have children other than the ones we made together, after we married, and are raising. Neither of us shacked up with anyone before we married each other, nor did we live together before we married. We've been married well over the threshold of time that my state would order me to support her for life should we divorce.
I have opinions and experiences I want to share and questions I want to ask. These days, my main goal with this blog is to serve as a warning to other men that most of them should not sacrifice themselves for what our laws and culture now call marriage and fatherhood. For most men, it won't be worth it, even if your brain chemistry and your psychology try to cover up for making terrible decisions by trying to fool you into thinking that you really didn't do so badly by marrying and making children. Most men should be on a marriage strike.
Statistically, due the factors I mentioned in that second paragraph and other factors, my marriage is supposed to be a happy one. That's what "they" say anyway. And my wife probably would tell a pollster it IS a happy marriage, and if I was being polled in front of her, I'd have to agree. But the reality is, it isn't a happy marriage. Poke around the blog and you'll see why.
So, that's the brief overview.
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Sunday, November 03, 2019
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I've enjoyed reading your blog over the past couple of days; I also happen to be a fan of Tom Leykis. After going to Twitter and reading your tweets, I've decided you'll never be happy unless you make a major change. You are living this weird dichotomy. You are an evangelical Christian who is staying in his marriage primarily for the good of his children, while you harp on about how men never should get married. Also, you defend pornography. While the laws are unfairly biased against men, that does not change the fact that Christians know that God wants most men to marry. Also, while some Christians may exaggerate the dangers of porn, the fact is that Christians should stay away from porn. You have a foot in both worlds, so you are exacerbating your unhappiness. Either jettison your Christina beliefs, leave your wife, and take care of your kids as a single father while indulging in porn and telling other men not to marry; or "offer up" the sufferings of your unhappy marriage to God, stop bad-mouthing marriage, stay away from porn, and focus om your children. Your life as it is makes no sense. Go one way or the other.
ReplyDeleteI'm happy to clarify:
Delete1) Yes, I'm married. It is after marrying and having children that I came to a better understanding of what is going on and so yes, I do urge men not to marry.
2) I don't really defend porn. I pick apart stupid arguments used against it, because I think those stupid arguments reduce the credibility of people who should do better.
3) I have no evidence at all that God wants most men to enter into what our laws and culture now call marriage.
4) You've gotten the wrong impression of me when it comes to porn. I don't play video games, and haven't since I was in my early teens, but I still expose stupid arguments against video games and playing video games.
5) My unhappiness with my marriage has nothing to do with what media I consume or don't consume. I listen to just about every minute of the Dennis Prager, Michael Medved, and Dr. Laura shows and all three of those shows constantly try to sell men on marriage and extol marriage as the height of existence.
6) I will continue to warn men to protect themselves and make better decisions.
7) As far as leaving my marriage: https://tunasafedolphin.blogspot.com/p/why-dont-you-leave.html