It’s Not Too Early to Form Your Holiday Game Plan

Free Men, and men who want to be, it's NOT to early to think about the holidays, and by that, I mean Halloween, Thanksgiving, Hanukah, Christmas, New Years, and Valentine's Day. 

There are two main considerations for you:

1) Dealing with family and "friends" who will be asking you (or pestering you) about your status as a free man. You know how it goes. "When are you going to get married?" Questions like that.

2) Avoiding spending those special days with a woman who wants to take away your status as Free Man, or will be expecting you to spend a lot of time, money, and effort on her.

Don't do something something foolish and start thinking there is "the one" to whom you should hand over your freedom. Don't be so ignorant, delusional, or masochistic that you're thinking you want to be exclusive with a woman.

Gifts For a Husband and Father

While this is written from my perspective, it can work for the man in your life who is a husband and father, especially if he’s your husband or your father.

The best gifts for me as a husband and dad are, in no particular order:

‪1. Experiences I don’t have to plan, will enjoy, and don’t require I be constantly looking after someone.‬ Maybe it a tour of a place he’ll enjoy? Maybe a getaway? A meal at a special place? A cruise? A sporting event or concert?

‪2. “Homemade.” This can be anything from artwork to food/treat; something you have reason to believe I’ll enjoy.‬ Custom ties, socks, undershirts, etc. can fulfill this. Something with the personal touch from the wife and/or kids.

‪3. Something I’ll enjoy/use but wouldn’t indulge myself by buying because I have responsibilities to my family.‬

‪Especially as a sole income earner, stuff I can and usually will buy for myself isn’t as good.

“Giving” your husband something sexual you used to do with him but stopped and only will do as a special occasion gift is insulting. You should be doing it anyway, if you can.

Conversely, if there’s something he’s wanted but you’ve never done with/for him before, initiating it as a gift can be great.

Are You Still Free?

Men, how are you doing? Did you make it through Thanksgiving? The December holidays? New Year’s Eve?

Are you still free?

The worst case scenario would be that you married.

If you did, keep in mind that in some places, every two days you’re married adds another day of alimony. Ten years means lifetime alimony. Watch out!

The next worst thing you could have done is humiliate yourself by proposing. Don’t marry. I wrote about breaking an engagement here.

Even if you’re not engaged, if you spent time with her on those special days, especially if you spent time with her friends or family or had her around yours, you need a course correction.

You should be scarce to any woman who is thinking she owns you or your future. If you’ve been seeing her regularly, especially if you’ve been taking her out to dinner or anything expensive, you shouldn’t be perpetuating that.

Do NOT make plans to be with her on February 14.

Be scarce and unreliable. 

This is your life we’re talking about. Your money. Your time. Your freedom. Your peace. Don’t let those things slip away from you.

Stay free.

Want companionship? That’s what friends, dogs, or running game are for.

Watch Out, Men!

We’re coming down to the wire for Christmas, and New Years Eve will be here before you know it.

I’ve repeatedly warned you.

If you’re not married, you need to make sure you don’t do anything that gets you closer to being in that terrible state contract.

Don’t marry.

Don’t propose, even if you’ve bought the ring and have it all planned out.

Don’t be spending Christmas Eve/Day or New Years Eve/Day with any woman who you’ve been dating for a while who is thinking of you as husband material.

If you’re currently set to bring a woman around your family or go with her to see hers, disrupt that now! Cancel! Say something came up, maybe witb work or that there’s a family emergency or some drama.

Most marriages fail.

The terrible state contract brings you nothing good you can’t otherwise get for less cost.

It’s never been easier to thrive living on your own.

Reject the idea you need to subject yourself to a series of humiliation rituals so that you can spend your time, money, and energy trying to please an irrational, moody person wjo will, most likely, resent you.

Embrace freedom, peace, and autonomy.

Stay free, men!

Don’t Make NYE More Costly

 

Guys, I’m warning you again, with New Year’s Eve almost here:

DON’T MARRY.

Do not propose.

Don’t ring in the New Year with a woman who is likely thinking of your as husband material.

It’s not too late to call off those plans, even if you’re reading this on the 31st.

Save your money. Don’t be spending it on trying to impress a woman or to pay for her entertainment.

Nights like NYE are nights you should either be with buddies, or with your parents/siblings, or with a “new” date who is sad she doesn’t have a boyfriend, fiancé, or husband ringing in the New Year with her and will look to make it a fun night with you.

Christmas With or Without Family

Well, here we are again.

If you’re reading this in time and about to give your girlfriend a ring or some other expensive gift….

STOP!!!

Don’t do it.

If you’re planning to get married on NYE or anytime soon, CALL THAT OFF!

Are you visiting family with your fiancée or girlfriend? Or visiting her family? I’m sorry. How much is that costing you? It will cost you even more if you marry.

Most of you unmarried men shouldn’t have a woman with you and you shouldn’t be going anywhere with a woman. MAYBE, if you’ve been together for many years and she understands you’re never subjecting your relationship to a terrible state contract AND she treats you extremely well and you have good reason for the family visits, then it’s OK. But that’s rare.

Otherwise, this is the time of year you should be enjoying your alone time, your friends, your parents/siblings/extended family, and running game with women who don’t have reason to think they’re going to be your wife soon, as I’ve repeatedly advised: https://tunasafedolphin.blogspot.com/2022/11/dont-let-holidays-lead-to-less-freedom.html

If you’re free, embrace it. Don’t let anyone shame you or pressure you. If your family or friends or your friend’s ball & chain start in on it, shut them down: https://tunasafedolphin.blogspot.com/2012/10/why-arent-you-married.html

There’s nothing wrong with being free, and for most men, it’s the best way to live.

If you are engaged…

…don’t spend any more than absolutely necessary and plan your escape. DON’T MARRY: https://tunasafedolphin.blogspot.com/2023/01/breaking-engagement.html

If you have a girlfriend…

…DO NOT PROPOSE. Keep things as inexpensive as you can and plan your return to freedom: https://tunasafedolphin.blogspot.com/2023/01/how-to-break-up.html

If you’re married, but childfree and less than ten years in, think about all the trouble and expense of trying to keep your wife happy, and seriously consider getting out before the ten year mark. Don’t knock her up!!! Make the New Year the one you turn towards freedom.

If this is a hard time of year for whatever reason, I’m sorry. You’re not the only person going through that; you’re not alone. You can always comment below, anonymously, to express yourself.

If you’re spending this time alone and you like that, good for you! If you’re free and you don’t want to spend the time alone but don’t have family you can go to, consider asking friends over or meeting up with them.

The New Year can be a great one. It’s mostly in your power.

Get free.

Stay free.

Embrace the free life.

Don't Let the Holidays Lead to Less Freedom, Guys

 

Free Men, hopefully you didn't spend your Thanksgiving catering to a woman, her family, her friends, or having some woman along with you as you visited your family. If you're not in the USA and not American, you probably didn't have to deal with anything like that.

But wherever you are, if you're somewhere Hanukah, Christmas, or January 1 are celebrated, you need to implement or continue your holiday game plan.

There are two main considerations for you:

1) Dealing with family and "friends" who will be asking you (or pestering you) about your status as a free man. You now how it goes. "When are you going to get married?" Questions like that.

2) Avoiding spending those special days with a woman who wants to take away your status as Free Man, or will be expecting you to spend a lot of time, money, and effort on her.

Don't do something foolish and start thinking there is "the one" to whom you should hand over your freedom. Don't be so ignorant, delusional, or masochistic that you're thinking you want to be exclusive with a woman.

Don’t Let Thanksgiving Cause Your Downfall

Dear Fellow American Men (or any man who is dealing with the pending American holiday),

(If you’re not, consider this a warning for the December holidays.)

Don’t let the Thanksgiving holiday and weekend lead you to giving up your autonomy, peace, and freedom by sinking into the quicksand of a “relationship.”

You shouldn’t be meeting or spending more time with the family or friends of a woman you’ve been dating. She shouldn’t be spending the holiday with you. You should be scarce this time of year for any woman you’ve been seeing regularly.

Spending holidays like this with such a woman is the path to humiliation, emasculation, and drudgery.

If you have plans with such a woman, it’s not too late to cancel. And you should. You don’t want her thinking of you as husband material.

Let me, a husband, assure you: it would be better to spend this time alone than set yourself for being ensnared in a terrible state contract and the awful social contract culture has attached to it.

Don’t become a beaten dog.

See your family or see friends. If not this year, maybe next year you can plan something for friends who can’t go “home” or prefer not to? If nothing else, I hope you’ve learned to enjoy solitude and can enjoy it now.

Take evasive maneuvers now!

November Requires Evasive Meneuvers For American Men

 

Free Men, hopefully you didn't spend your Halloween catering to a woman.

If you haven't done so already, you need to start implementing your holiday game plan. Thanksgiving, Hanukah, Christmas, New Years, and Valentine's Day are on their way.

There are two main considerations for you:

1) Dealing with family and "friends" who will be asking you (or pestering you) about your status as a free man. You now how it goes. "When are you going to get married?" Questions like that.

2) Avoiding spending those special days with a woman who wants to take away your status as Free Man, or will be expecting you to spend a lot of time, money, and effort on her.

Don't do something foolish and start thinking there is "the one" to whom you should hand over your freedom. Don't be so ignorant, delusional, or masochistic that you're thinking you want to be exclusive with a woman.

Stay Strong, Unmarried Men

For all of you men who are not currently married, this is one of those times of the year family and certain cultural elements push you to marry.

One way is trying to make it seem like everybody gets married, that marriage should be your goal, and that only losers don’t marry. 

Jewelry companies run ads promoting the ridiculous notion that engagement rings make perfect holiday gifts. There are legal reasons why that’s a terrible idea.

Don’t fall for the trap.

If you’re engaged, don’t let the manipulations during this time of year push you into signing a terrible state contract (marrying).

Nor should you make any large purchases for, or with a woman. Want to buy something for your mother? Go ahead. But not a fiancée, not a girlfriend, or any other woman you’ve been seeing.

Don’t propose. Don’t co-sign a lease or mortgage or anything. Don’t move in with a woman or let her move in with you.

Stay free.

Follow the tags for this post, like “Free Men” and “Marriage Strike” and “Running Game” to be reminded why you should stay free and how to make the most of this time of year.

As always, feel free to comment. 

It’s Not Too Early To Form Your Holiday Game Plan

Free Men, and men who want to be, it's NOT to early to think about the holidays, and by that, I mean Halloween, Thanksgiving, Hanukah, Christmas, New Years, and Valentine's Day. 

There are two main considerations for you:

1) Dealing with family and "friends" who will be asking you (or pestering you) about your status as a free man. You know how it goes. "When are you going to get married?" Questions like that.

2) Avoiding spending those special days with a woman who wants to take away your status as Free Man, or will be expecting you to spend a lot of time, money, and effort on her.

Don't do something something foolish and start thinking there is "the one" to whom you should hand over your freedom. Don't be so ignorant, delusional, or masochistic that you're thinking you want to be exclusive with a woman.

Holidays Reminder: Men, Stay Free!

Christmas and New Year's Eve/Day are almost here.

Men, don't do foolish things.

Don't marry.

Don't get engaged.

Don't buy expensive gifts for a woman you consider a date, romantic, or sexual interest.

Don't pay for her to travel, or go to events/parties, or for an expensive hotel room for her.

Don't spend time with a date's friends or family or have her spend time around yours.

Stay free. Enjoy your freedom.

Be Thankful For Being Free

If' you're a Free Man, count that as one of the thing for which to be thankful as we Americans celebrate Thanksgiving Day.

All over the country, men, many of whom are beaten dogs, are spending a day or multiple days with people they can't stand because they were foolish enough to marry, propose marriage, live with a woman, or be "in a relationship" with a woman. In addition, many of these men have even paid for flights, hotel rooms, and other expenses to facilitate this.

Don't let that happen to you!

If you're in the USA, you should have already taken evasive action. If you're not in the USA, take evasive action before the next holiday!

Be thankful for being a Free Man, and stay a Free Man, and help other men stay free.

Are you free? Are you a beaten dog? Or, are you still blissfully delusional in your marriage, relationship, or desire to be in one? Whichever is the case, feel free to comment below to tell us about it.

Here Come the Holidays

Halloween is almost here. And in the USA, Thanksgiving will be here before you know it.

Guys, this is a reminder that you need to be executing your holiday game plan.

It's Not Too Early to Form Your Holiday Game Plan

Free Men, and men who want to be, it's NOT to early to think about the holidays, and by that, I mean Halloween, Thanksgiving, Hanukah, Christmas, New Years, and Valentine's Day. 

There are two main considerations for you:

1) Dealing with family and "friends" who will be asking you (or pestering you) about your status as a free man. You now how it goes. "When are you going to get married?" Questions like that.

2) Avoiding spending those special days with a woman who wants to take away your status as Free Man, or will be expecting you to spend a lot of time, money, and effort on her.

Don't do something something foolish and start thinking there is "the one" to whom you should hand over your freedom. Don't be so ignorant, delusional, or masochistic that you're thinking you want to be exclusive with a woman.

Reminder For Men: GET SCARCE!

December and January are the months you should be avoiding any woman who is thinking of you as marriage material, is hoping to get a ring from you,is hoping to move in with you, expects you to buy her gifts or pay her bills, wants to introduce you to her family, expects to spend Christmas Eve or Day or New Year's Eve with you, or has asked, "Where is this relationship going? What am I to you?"

See other women, see new women, or don't see any women, but "be busy" rather than spending time with any woman who is trying to lock you in and lock you up. If she won't see you when we reach the second half of February, that's not as bad as having her planning your wedding or spending your money.

STAY FREE!!!

December is Upon Us

Guy's it's here. This is the month that you must become (or stay) scarce to any woman who is thinking of you as a future husband. This is especially true if you're an American who didn't evade before Thanksgiving.

There are ads on television, radio, and websites/apps right now trying to get men to buy jewelry and automobiles for women. NO NO NO!!!

If you haven't done so already, you need to start implementing your holiday game plan. Hanukah, Christmas, New Years, and Valentine's Day are on their way.

There are two main considerations for you:

1) Dealing with family and "friends" who will be asking you (or pestering you) about your status as a free man. You now how it goes. "When are you going to get married?" Questions like that.

2) Avoiding spending those special days with a woman who wants to take away your status as Free Man, or will be expecting you to spend a lot of time, money, and effort on her.

This year has been different, due to pandemic limitations.

It's possible you either have maintained a roster and bullpen of women. It's also possible you have acquired more, even if just through online communications.

Whatever is the case, don't let the pandemic conditions cause you to do something foolish and start thinking there is "the one" to whom you should hand over your freedom. As much tragedy as there has been, the pandemic will ultimately be a bump in the road of life. Don't be so ignorant, delusional, or masochistic that you're thinking you want to be exclusive with a woman.

Be Thankful For Being Free

If' you're a Free Man, count that as one of the thing for which to be thankful as we Americans celebrate Thanksgiving Day.

All over the country, men, many of whom are beaten dogs, are spending a day or multiple days with people they can't stand because they were foolish enough to marry, propose marriage, live with a woman, or be "in a relationship" with a woman. In addition, many of these men have even paid for flights, hotel rooms, and other expenses to facilitate this.

Don't let that happen to you!

If you're in the USA, you should have already taken evasive action. If you're not in the USA, take evasive action before the next holiday!

Be thankful for being a Free Man, and stay a Free Man, and help other men stay free.

Are you free? Are you a beaten dog? Or, are you still blissfully delusional in your marriage, relationship, or desire to be in one? Whichever is the case, feel free to comment below to tell us about it.

November Means American Men Must Get Scarce

Free Men, hopefully you didn't spend your Halloween weekend catering to a woman.

If you haven't done so already, you need to start implementing your holiday game plan. Thanksgiving, Hanukah, Christmas, New Years, and Valentine's Day are on their way.

There are two main considerations for you:

1) Dealing with family and "friends" who will be asking you (or pestering you) about your status as a free man. You now how it goes. "When are you going to get married?" Questions like that.

2) Avoiding spending those special days with a woman who wants to take away your status as Free Man, or will be expecting you to spend a lot of time, money, and effort on her.

This year has been different, due to pandemic limitations.

It's possible you either have maintained a roster and bullpen of women. It's also possible you have acquired more, even if just through online communications.

Whatever is the case, don't let the pandemic conditions cause you to do something foolish and start thinking there is "the one" to whom you should hand over your freedom. As much tragedy as there has been, the pandemic will ultimately be a bump in the road of life. Don't be so ignorant, delusional, or masochistic that you're thinking you want to be exclusive with a woman.

It's Not Too Early to Form Your Holiday Game Plan

Free Men, it's NOT to early to think about the holidays, and by that, I mean Halloween, Thanksgiving, Hanukah, Christmas, New Years, and Valentine's Day. 

There are two main considerations for you:

1) Dealing with family and "friends" who will be asking you (or pestering you) about your status as a free man. You now how it goes. "When are you going to get married?" Questions like that.

2) Avoiding spending those special days with a woman who wants to take away your status as Free Man, or will be expecting you to spend a lot of time, money, and effort on her.

This year has been different, due to pandemic limitations.

It's possible you either have maintained a roster and bullpen of women. It's also possible you have acquired more, even if just through online communications.

Whatever is the case, don't let the pandemic conditions cause you to do something foolish and start thinking there is "the one" to whom you should hand over your freedom. As much tragedy as there has been, the pandemic will ultimately be a bump in the road of life. Don't be so ignorant, delusional, or masochistic that you're thinking you want to be exclusive with a woman.